No Pain, No Gain.

In life we will face many trials and tribulations. Some of these instances will figuratively break us, if not almost literally. People will cross your path in life for many reasons. One of those reasons, unfortunate as it may be, is to hurt you, use you, abuse you and, break you. They often hold a special place to us, and then we become vulnerable to them. And in due time, they will play out their role. We may not always know from the beginning, but sometimes we decide to ignore red flags. These people come in forms of family, friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, husbands/wives, children and so on. No matter how much we protect ourselves, we will likely be hurt by someone. By someone who we previously enjoyed, had fun with and even loved. This makes that pain we feel, even more intense. One of the hardest pains we feel, arguably more than death even, is when someone CHOOSES to leave our lives. The pain of knowing someone is giving you up is a pain that is hard to be dealt with. So what do we do? Do we hurt? Yes. Do we cry? Yes. Do we get angry? Yes. Do we move on? That is the most important question. Yes. Yes, we move on! We cannot hold on to the past. We cannot continue to ask what if we did something differently, how things could be. You have to grieve properly and then move forward with your life. A great woman in my life once said “Not everyone in your life is ordained to be in your life forever, some people are only there for a part of the way.” Once this is realized, and accepted we need to continue moving. Without feeling pain from loss, we would not know the feeling of victory from a gain. It is rather likely, the person who left, is living their life, following their dreams. Has moved on. So don’t let their leaving hold you back. You existed and mattered before them, and continue to do so after them. We all have past, some darker than others. Our pasts do not define us. What we do in the present to ensure a better future does. I know it all seems easier said than done, but it is possible. We are worthy to be loved, to be wanted. If you don’t believe this, then you haven’t told yourself enough. Look in the mirror and say “I matter”, “I am worthy”, and lastly “I love you”. Yes, let yourself know that you love you! It all starts with YOU!